When’s the last time you let fear control you? Does the fear of failure prevent you from doing what you truly want?
We’ve all been in a position where we’ve wanted to do something but feared the outcome. Do you fear looking clueless at the gym or silly in a fitness class? Perhaps you fear being alone or not providing for your family. Maybe you fear that you won’t fit in with friends or society. It’s easy to get sucked into doing what you’re comfortable with, but why let fear hold you back?
As a professional dancer who started young, dance comes easily to me now. I pick up steps quickly and can perform in front of a large audience with just a touch of butterflies. Writing my first blog post on the other hand, scared the hell out of me.
For weeks I’d been excitedly thinking about all of the different topics I couldn’t wait to cover on my blog. Strangely, when it came time to write the first one, I became immobilized. I had so many good ideas, but none were “perfect”. My high standards and desire for perfection were not only putting immense pressure on me, they were hindering my progress. I realized I hadn’t started my blog because I was fearful of the outcome.
This is just one of the many ways that fear can hold us back. If we think something will make us happier or enhance our lives, why do we fear going after it?
Don’t Let Fear Hold You Back!
Below are some things I’ve been doing to become more FEARLESS and I’ve seen great results.
1) Stop trying to be perfect.
Lets face it; we all want to be good at what we do. Being the best even motivates some of us. In order to get good at something though, you have to practice, and that requires starting regardless of what level you’re currently at.
If you’re decent at something but keep practicing, chances are you’ll become good. The more you do something you’re good at more likely you’ll become great. Even if you flat out suck at something, keep sucking at it until you’re decent. One thing is for sure, you won’t get where you want to be by letting fear stop you from starting.
“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great” ― Zig Ziglar
Think about the worst case scenario. If the worst thing that could happen is that you might suck, then maybe it’s not so bad.
There’s no perfect plan. You can search and search for the “perfect” course of action but it doesn’t exist. Don’t wait for perfection; celebrate mini victories, like getting started.
2) Become more aware of your thoughts.
What tone do you talk to yourself in? Do you use loving words or are they harsh? Sometimes we don’t realize how unloving or hard we’re being on ourselves inside our own heads.
If you talk to yourself with kindness, you’ll know you have a nurturing place to come back to. That alone eliminates the fear of disappointing yourself, and encourages fearlessly tackling your goals.
Diaphragmatic breathing and meditation are great tools to become more aware your thoughts. As you become aware of your thoughts and tendencies, you can choose to think and act intentionally rather than out of habit.
3) Live out of love.
Letting go of my desire for perfection in certain aspects of life allowed me to start going after things I loved. Instead of tirelessly searching for perfection (and never getting there), I took action towards taking the next best steps towards my goals. Sure, it was scary, but each time I felt fear I flipped the switch to love.
It’s normal to experience fear; it’s part of life, but pushing through a little discomfort can be very rewarding. Prioritizing love over fear will bring you closer to creating a better you.
Love yourself. Love the journey.
4) Never stop learning.
Experience can be a great teacher; it allows you to learn and fine-tune your approach or stance on something. Regardless of the outcome, ask yourself what you can learn from the experience.
Even if you learn that you actually don’t desire to conquer the fear you thought you did, at least you won’t wonder, “what if?” Just try. Trial and error may even lead you to a newfound passion.
Having an ego prevents you from becoming a better version of yourself. If you think you know everything, there’s no room to grow. Let go of your ego. Let go of who your ego thinks you should be and grow into the best version of who you truly are.
Related Article: Why You Need To Be Mentally Fit First. Fitness Professional and Nutrition Expert Amy Currie talks about her experience with getting mentally fit. She learned that when she got fit on the inside she reaped the benefits on the outside.
5) Stop caring about what other people think.
This can be a tough one, but just like anything else, the more you practice, the better you’ll get. The better you know yourself and your values, the less you’ll seek approval and acceptance from others. You’ll know what your needs are in life, in a relationship, and in a friendship. As you grow your needs may change, fine-tune them accordingly.
It’s nice to be able to confide in those who have your best interest at heart. Aside from that, take the opinions of others with a grain of salt.
Your perspective determines the quality of your life. Try adjusting your perspective or applying one of the tip above. In life there’s going to be ups and downs, it’s all about how you ride the wave.
Stay fit & fearless.
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